Le Labo Wedding Party Gifts by Violet

I can't remember how I found out about this brand, but I do know it's been doing some serious damage to my bank account for a while now. When FH and I were in Japan last year I found their Shibuya store and fell in love with the fragrance Gaiac 10, sold only in the Tokyo store... for a kind-of-obscene amount of money. They personalise each bottle and box with your name, location of store and date, so it's a nice little reminder of my Japan engagement (this is how I justify it to myself). 

Since my wedding party is made up of both guys and girls, and Le Labo being a unisex fragrance house, it felt like the perfect place to pick up my wedding party gifts. I just hope my wedding party are as into them as I am. My bridesman never wears perfume.... I have been threatening to gift him some for a while now. The time has come. 

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Erica Pelosini and Louis Leeman Get Married by Violet

When, late on a Friday afternoon, an email lands in your inbox detailing the finer points of a wedding weekend so extravagant it’s set to include a gorgeous getaway in Capri on the same weekend as the Dolce & Gabbana Alta Moda show and a guest list that more closely resembles front row guest list than a bridal party, well, it's not exactly the time to wax poetic on the merits of a happily-ever-unmarried-after union. Rather, it's the time to frantically book the next flight to Italy. As it turns out, on occasion, all it requires is a few key elements for us to suddenly perk up and start singing 'here comes the bride'. And the mention of a fleet of custom Mary Katrantzou frocks for before and Pucci by Peter Dundas gowns during the ceremony might have more to do with it than we'd typically care to admit. Leave it to Cov-alum Erica Pelosini (she of the racks on racks of Balmain jackets) and her then-fiancé Louis Leeman to pique our interest, right?

Dress Disaster by Violet

Around a month ago, something clicked with me and my perspective on my wedding day shifted a bit. I got rid of that underlying nervousness. I stopped worrying about the finality of it all. No more, "it has to be the best of everything, because it's my one chance". I was totally chill (realistic) about it all and focused on making the day an interesting and fun experience for FH and all of our guests. Then my bridal dress turned up and it was wrong. Like, completely wrong. Different embroidery, four sizes too large and with none of the specifications I had requested. I'm so bummed out, and completely over it.

15 Rules for an Unconventional Wedding According to Molly Guy by Violet

We’re big fans of sartorial rarities—we mean, nothing gets us going like rare designer finds (hello, collectible CHANEL and Hermès) or custom couture—but weddings are one area where tradition makes it a little harder to stray from the norm. No matter how many hours you put inscouring Pinterest; the whole white dress, walking down the aisle thing doesn’t vary a whole lot from bride to bride.

In the name of going slight against the grain on your special day (or, for that matter the special day of your BFF, frenemy or mere acquaintance), we asked Cov-alum Molly Guy for her ground rules when it comes to attending or having a wedding. Because if anyone can give us some tips for nuptials that are a little less princess-gown at the Plaza and a little more flower crown and mason jars, it’s the designer behind Stone Fox Bride, purveyor ofbohemian, yet romantic dressesflowers and jewelry—a.k.a. pretty much everything you’d ever need or want for a wedding. If Guy’s favorite historical wedding is any indication (it’s would be Mia Farrow’s to Frank Sinatra in Las Vegas, because duh), she knows a thing or two about out of the ordinary, not-so-typical matrimonial ceremonies. “It was super chic, mod and beautiful and not too pushy or romantic. Clean and high fashion,” she raved about the iconic union. Sounds ideal, right? “They got divorced, but it looked good.” Priorities, people.

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RULE 1: HAVE A RAIN PLAN.

“The most important thing for a summer wedding is, whether you have one on the beach or out in a field or in your back or front yard, is to always have a rain plan. Because nothing will ruin a wedding faster than everyone getting wet. Also to have it in a very air-conditioned place that will cool down on an extremely hot day.”

RULE 2: PAY ATTENTION TO GIFT REGISTRIES.

“[Gifts] depend on whether they’re registered or not. I live for cooking and I was so happy to register at Williams & Sonoma and get thousand dollar appliances like Cuisinart and Vitamix and amazing pots and pans and stuff. I always say if you are registered, it’s a good idea to stick to the registry. I know it’s always cool to go off beat and if you are inclined to do so I recommend Moroccan wedding blankets (they are really beautiful) or a gift certificate to a super cool restaurant.

RULE 3: DON’T WORRY ABOUT NOT SPENDING ENOUGH ON A GIFT.

“You can get an awesome table cloth from a flea market for $5 and I think it’s a general consensus your parents would get you something for $1000. Both are great options. Generally, it’s fine to spend $100 to $200.”

RULE 4: IF YOU’RE GETTING MARRIED IN THE SUMMER, DON’T MAKE YOUR GUESTS WEAR BLACK TIE.

“I just came from a wedding this weekend in L.A. that was cocktail attire and not black tie, which I love. It was a super chic wedding and the bride and groom were fancy, but cocktail attire is fun because you can interpret it however you want.  I’m not a fan of black tire attire, especially in the summer; there is something to be said for it when it’s colder weather—like it could be really fun getting really made up and wearing a structured gown. But it’s not fun in the summer—it’s a real bummer if you do it in the summer. [As an example, to my friend’s wedding,] I wore a pair of Chloé sandals that were beautiful. And I wore a Stone Cold Fox Bride Oscar de la Renta dress; it’s really long to the floor and I had this old school Gucci clutch and my eyes were super smoky. I was delighted when I got there that Mary-Kate Olsen had a similar dress on!”

RULE 5: DON’T MAKE ALL YOUR BRIDESMAIDS WEAR THE SAME DRESS.

“I always think that if you want to do some sort of matching situation, give them a broad color palette and let them choose for themselves. Give them options for silhouettes. The goal in all of this is to not have your friends be annoyed with you or resent you. They should generally feel excited throughout the whole experience. We did an amazing wedding last year and offered the bridesmaids all these different color swatches from pale blue to sea foam green to my all-time favorite tangerine and faint yellow and blush pink—it was beautiful. It was for a July wedding and the colors suited the outdoors so well. We also had the option of having the dresses altered a bit underneath… it’s very touchy to ask your friends to pick out a uniform dress because everyone is different and everyone has parts of their body that they are uncomfortable showing off. We’ve done bridesmaids dresses and literally had them burst into tears because they don’t want to show their arms or their legs. Offer as many options as you can because the last thing you want is to have your friends feel uncomfortable in their own skin.”

RULE 6: KEEP YOUR WEDDING PARTY SMALL.

“I personally don’t really think you need bridesmaids. It tends to become a popularity contest with all your other friends. It’s a very old medieval tradition that you had to dress someone up to look like the bride and walk her down the aisle to ward off evil spirits. And now it’s become such a rally of friends. If you want to [have them], do not go over eight. Otherwise, it’s really excessive.”

RULE 7: WHEN YOU'RE THE BRIDE, LESS IS MORE.

“[Accessorizing on your wedding day] really depends on the bride. Personally, I am not a big fan of wearing a lot of jewelry. I think that your hair and your dress should speak for themselves. I do think there’s something really nice about incorporating small diamond studs or a really understated opal necklace or a family heirloom piece—it’s so meaningful and then you can give it to your own child when they walk down the aisle one day. I think it’s completely up to the bride and their silhouette, but I believe that less is more. And I really try to stay away from things that are too heavy or too starchy. The goal with a wedding dress is that you want to feel like you’re being held in—your stomach is being held in and your ass isn’t showing a way that is making you feel uncomfortable—while also feeling totally comfortable in your own skin and being able to walk down the aisle. One of my favorite stories is from a girl that came in. The week before she was at a wedding and the bride was in a huge, heavy Vera Wang dress and in the middle of the dance floor pulled it up and said ‘Can someone blow on my vagina? I’m just so claustrophobic!’

“I love our Glenda dress and our Frieda dress and our Caitlin dress… the silhouettes are universally flattering. They have a knit cumberband waist, long sleeves and full flowy skirts. They work on a lot of body types—for big boobs, small boobs, petite, curvy. I love the long sleeve, so chic—a really long lace sleeve. If you are going to do it, make sure it’s not too tight in the arms. The last thing you want is for sleeves to be too tight.”

RULE 8: GROOMS WILL LOOK THEIR HANDSOMEST IN A CLASSIC SUIT.

“When it comes to men I really like a classic suita classic navyclassic blackwith a white or pink shirt and loafers. I’m not into red converse or pink hats or linen. I’m a big fan of the classic old school suit.”

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RULE 9: WHEN IT COMES TO RINGS, KEEP IT SIMPLE.

“I think all these big gems are a little tiring, I’m really into a tiny, thin classic band. However, if you are going to go for a huge gem situation, as most of us girls do, I love a really classic platinum band with a solitaire diamond. It’s super old school and it looks really nice when mixing colors—like with a gold or rose gold band. It’s super beautiful with a black dress; it’s versatile and it will never go out of style.”

RULE 10: ALL-NATURAL IS BEST FOR BRIDAL MAKEUP AND HAIR.

“I think that you should look how you normally look, but a more thoughtful version. My best friend said to me once, ‘Your boyfriend most likely fell in love with you when you were naked and natural and lying side-by-side in bed, not when you were totally done up and looking like a beauty queen.’ So I don’t think a lot of makeup is necessary. I love loose waves, clean skin, a little bit oflip balmmascara—super understated.”

RULE 11: GO FOR ROMANTIC BLOOMS ON YOUR BIG DAY.

“[I love] peonies, poppies, roses, eucalyptus and wild leaves.

RULE 12: FOR MUSIC, A PLAYLIST OF CLASSIC HITS IS ALL YOU NEED.

“Generally, I’m a fan having different music walking down the aisle than you would at cocktail hour. I had a friend who walked down the aisle to [an old school love] song. It was so cute. During dancing, an all-classic playlist with Van Morrison, The Beatles and Blondie [is best]. I don’t think you need to have a band—I think it’s okay to have a playlist. When you’re walking down the aisle, that’s more time to get romantic and poetic.”

RULE 13: THE MORE FOOD, THE BETTER.

“I love family style and to have a lot of food. Nothing can ruin a wedding faster than hungry guests, so have lots of hors d'oeuvres and canapés. A family style dinner with big local organic salads and bread and butter is always good and having vegetarian options. Whole grain salads or quinoa salads, local steak, chicken, fish… anything local and seasonal and organic. Spend money on food—you want your guests to feel like they are being taken care of.”

RULE 14: VANILLA OVER CHOCOLATE CAKE IN THE SUMMERTIME.

“I love a multi-tiered vanilla cake, unfrosted with butter-cream fresh frosting between the layers, with fresh berries and edible flowers. Some people like chocolate, but in the summer I think vanilla is the way to go. White cake, white flowers—it’s very seasonal.”

RULE 15: SUMMER WEDDING = CLASSIC SUMMER COCKTAILS.

“I don’t think weddings need a signature cocktail. I think it depends on the mood of your wedding and your budget. In the summer mojitos and prosecco are nice and cold beer and classic white wine.”

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Brontide and Others Stories by Violet

I never have 'so blessed' moments, but my Stylist for the wedding, Ginny Au is so close to a gift from God, I'm counting my blessings. Just. Like. Mum. Said. To. 

We've had a weird connection on linens and details since day one.... and I feel like she can't make a wrong move, really. Check out bits and pieces from a few shoots she did with Erich McVey at his most recent California workshop. I die.

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Christian Dior Couture: Bringing the Orchid Back by Violet

Christian Dior loved flowers. Marie-France Pochna outlined the importance of blooms in her respected Dior Biography: Lauchhaume were his favourite florists and lily of the valley was his lucky flower. Orchids were once the chosen flower of a gift to his partner Marcel Boussac:

"Lauchaume, had delivered a floral arrangement to his partner, Marcel Boussac, the previous evening, courtesy of Dior. Boussac had been completely in the dark throughout the preparations of the previous months, and this long-awaited sign from his protégé took his breath away. Upon his return from the office to his home in Neuilly, he was greeted by a striking ensemble of black and white orchids illuminating his front hall, a gesture all the more delicate given Boussac’s passion for orchids, which he grew in a hothouse in Chantilly. Boussac hurried up to his wife’s apartments. “Don’t worry about tomorrow, “ he cried. “There isn’t a florist in the world who could have created a bouquet as beautiful as the one I have just seen. I’m quite certain tomorrow will be a huge success!”"

Yesterday, Raf Simons created the next orchid chapter in Dior history, in collaboration with Mark Colle. Antwerp-based Colle is a lonstanding collaborator of Simons and has worked with him on his fashion shows since his A/W12 Jil Sander collection. For his fall 2014 couture collection, Colle covered the curved mirrored walls of the Rodin Museum entirely in white orchids.

 

"The idea was to create transparency", Colle explains. "Something very light. The use of phalaenopsis orchids was perfect in this particular setting – they have a feminine feel yet there is something alien and futuristic about them (which is also the reason why I enjoy working with them so much). Rather then having them hanging from the walls in a garden type of way, I thought it would be more interesting to have them go many different directions, as if they were an army of white spiders spreading out over the mirrored walls."

The most highly coveted of ornamental plants, the delicate, exotic and graceful orchid traditionally represents love, luxury, beauty and strength. In ancient Greece, orchids were associated with virility. In fact, Greek women believed that if the father of their unborn child ate large, new orchid tubers, the baby would be a boy. If the mother ate small orchid tubers, she would give birth to a girl. During the Victorian era, orchid symbolism shifted to luxury, magnificence and artful splendor.

 

The use of orchids is particularly interesting, as in recent times, they have become a less favoured flower. Perhaps as a result of the availability in supermarkets and Ikea? Although, it's safe to say, the orchid can recover from such things, unlike the gerbera who was chosen as the flower provided with VW Beetles, supermarket bouquets and Pizza Express tables.

Are we about to see orchids replacing the current fashion favourite cacti and succulents?

Via Another Magazine

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Brilliant General Wedding Advice Via Chloe Deschanel by Violet

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Everyone knows that the most important decision a woman will ever make is picking her wedding dress, or at least that’s what the wedding-industrial complex and half the shows on TLC and WE TV would have you believe.  As someone who until relatively recently had gotten most of my wedding experience vicariously through reality TV, I had a period of time where I sort of bought into this.  As I’ve now been through my second time as a helper in the selection of a wedding gown, I thought I’d help others in my predicament separate fact from “reality” fact from fiction.

Fiction:  You will have an awesomely sassy man to help you select your dress.

Whether it’s Anthony on Sex and the City or Randy from Say Yes To The Dress, we’d all love for someone fabulous and hilarious to help you pick out a dress.  If you already know someone like this, great!  Bring them along.  If you don’t, the reality is that a very sweet girl dressed in black will be the person walking you through the dress selection process.  If by some lucky coincidence the store from which you selected your dress did have a Randy-equivalent, please let me know where that was so I can file that information away for future use.

Fiction:  There will be champagne.

I went with a friend once to Vera Wang with the promise we’d get to drink champagne while she tried on dresses.  The reality was that there were no drinks, just very, very expensive dresses.

Fiction:  The dress should cost as much as a car.

Yes, some people can afford to, and want to, spend upwards of $10,000 on a dress they’re going to wear once.  Just because it happens on TV is not a reason it needs to happen in real life.  There are many, many beautiful dresses to be had for perfectly reasonable price points, so know what your budget is and stay within it.

Fiction:  The dress must be purchased from a fabulously glamorous salon.

Yes, you can totally road trip to Kleinfeld’s or Vera Wang or the other fancy dress store of your dreams.  In fact, I recommend it if it’s something you’ve always dreamed of doing.  But the reality is your dress might actually come from a non-descript store in a strip mall in Michigan and that’s 100% okay!  Not everyone will select their wedding dress via a fashion shoot for Vogue.  Frankly, my biggest takeaway from watching a friend try on dresses at Vera Wang was that I didn’t really like any of them that much.  Where the dress comes from is far less important than how the bride feels in it.

Fiction:  You should be part of an entourage of every woman the bride has ever known.

Some people really want their mother, mother in law, sisters, cousins, and every sorority sister to be present for their dress shopping.  Other people want one trusted friend.  Both of these options, and everywhere in between, are acceptable.  If the bride wants to pull a Miranda and go shopping for a dress by herself on her lunch break, good for her!

Fiction:  It’s not the dress if there aren’t tears.

According to reality TV, you know a dress is the one if someone, be it bride, mother, or grandmother of the bride starts tearing up.  As a bridesmaid, I have watched perfectly lovely dresses be selected without anyone having to break out the tissues.  If you cry, great!  If you don’t, that doesn’t mean you haven’t found the dress of your dreams.

Fiction:  Everyone’s opinion matters.  

You know those episodes of Say Yes To The Dress where no one can agree on anything and the bride ends up in tears?  That should never happen.  If you are not the bride, you are there to be supportive, not to really have anything to do with dress selection.  Yes, you should talk someone out of really egregious errors, like picking white when their skin tone would look better with ivory, or when she really doesn’t have the body type to pull off a mermaid silhouette.  Aside from that, all you’re there to do is wait for the dress that gives her a glowing look on her face, and telling her she looks like the most beautiful bride in the world.  Because she does.

Fact:  It’s important you show up.

You may have gathered that the wedding dress selection process doesn’t much resemble the one shown on TV, but there is one thing TV gets right – it is a really important moment for many women.  While picking a wedding dress really isn’t the biggest decision ever, it is a pretty big deal to a lot of people, so if you’re invited to help a bride pick her dress, you should show up.  If she’s asked you, it means she values your input and she wants you to be a part of this experience.  Whether you’re thrilled to be looking at wedding dresses or disgruntled that there won’t be champagne, you need to put on your game face and spend a few hours being the best friend/sister/bridesmaid/whatever you can be.

Katie Shillingford's Wedding Dress by Violet

Okay. It's time to share this with you. I've been keeping it to myself for a while now but I think it's time. This dress inspires the same reaction in me that I imagine girls are supposed to get from those sweetheart-neck-whatever's at Kleinfeld's. 

The muted colours. The subtle and at the same time, scary nails. The veil in a knot. 

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Theresa Wayman of Warpaint on Motherhood by Violet

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“At the beginning of Warpaint, we were doing a lot of brainstorming for the name of the band. We had this moment where we kind of went into outer space, and thought, “What about star names?” I thought Sirius B was such a pretty name but realised quickly that it wouldn’t be right for our band. ‘B’ is actually for beta, because there is Sirius Alpha, and Sirius Beta, which is how they name stars. Also there was a little bit of a story to that star, which is that you can’t see it; we didn’t discover it for a long time but it was supposedly known about and documented by other cultures thousands of years ago. I found that out later. But at the time, I thought, “If I ever have a kid, I’ll name him Sirius B” and then I found out two weeks later that I was pregnant.

I am really lucky, because I have my mother, who moved down to LA and she helps me with my son. So he’s got his grandma, which is a big deal, and they’re really close. What my mum and I really focus on is making sure that he has structure and discipline in his life, as well as fun, party times. I realised that human beings need structure and discipline and they thrive off of it. I always thought that was kind of a man-made thing, you know, ‘mind your p’s and q’s’ and ‘have an early bedtime’. When I was growing up, I really hated those things and I wanted to rebel against them; I thought that they were just social structures placed upon people to be boring. Then after having a kid, I realised that my son is such a happy, well-adjusted, interesting, fun, and funny little guy when he has all his ducks in a row, when he has enough sleep regularly, and when he has codes of conduct to live by.

Music has always been a part of his life. Something that people don’t do with kids often enough – as far as music lessons go – is to get them to improvise. When they get to do that during their piano lessons, that’s the part they love the most. It’s really inventive, and it does connect directly to their imagination and the world of make-believe. When I was pregnant, the music that I was playing with Vincent [Gallo’s band] was really soothing music, so I knew it wasn’t going to be too disturbing for the baby. I just thought, this is going to be really nice for the baby to be hearing this stuff, feeling its vibrations. Because the baby is in liquid, it is probably getting an even stronger sense of the music. After he was born, he was still really young and I happened to go into my friend’s shop one day and they were playing that album – the album that we had toured – and honestly, it was like his ears perked up and he was all of a sudden paying attention to the music. I didn’t realise for a second why he was acting like that, and then it totally hit me and I thought, ‘Oh my god, maybe I do believe it.’ There are so many 'mama' songs. The main one that came to mind was Tupac's ‘Dear Mama’ but they're honestly everywhere, everyone from Elvis to Kanye to Metallica has done one. So I guess it's in my son's hands to eventually write a song for me. Or maybe I should write one for my mother. She certainly deserves it.”

An artist's impression of Sirius A (left) and B (right) Courtesy of NASA

An artist's impression of Sirius A (left) and B (right) Courtesy of NASA

Childhood friends Theresa Wayman and Emily Kokal formedWarpaint on Valentine’s Day in 2004, a fittingly romantic springboard for the lush and sometimes lovelorn music they make. Ten years later, alongside bandmates Jenny Lee Lindberg and Stella Mozgawa, they are now on the road following the release earlier this year of their critically lauded, eponymous second album. Of the swooning, expansive songs on the record, the last, Son, was loosely penned for guitarist and vocalist Theresa Wayman’s 8-and-a-half-year-old son, Sirius B. Warpaint was still in its infancy when she became pregnant, and Sirius B – named after the fainter component of the Sirius Binary star system, considered the brightest in the sky – has grown up with music all around him, ever since he was in the womb; Wayman was playing in Vincent Gallo’s band up until she was eight months pregnant. Indeed, her son’s name was one of many possibles initially thought up for Warpaint.

Having a child and being a touring musician hasn’t been easy, and Wayman is disarmingly open and pragmatic about the experience. “It has made me value my time really intensely,” she says. “All of a sudden, your life has become about somebody else. I think for anyone at any age that’s really difficult, but when you’re younger and you’re still developing and figuring out what your role is in life… I had to get really serious about structuring my life and my time, so that I could do what I wanted to do for myself and do what I needed to do for my kid.”

Via Another Magazine